ok, ranting.

17th December 1934: American actress Jean Harlow on the set of the MGM musical melodrama 'Reckless' with director Victor Fleming and co-star William Powell. (Photo by Virgil Apger)
guys, pls stop asking me out on a date
and then asking me to fucking plan it.

THERE ARE RULES FOR A REASON.

did you put in a little effort?
did you suggest a half-decent bar?
congrats! your odds just increased →

SIGNIFICANTLY.

why? because it tells me that you are capable and decisive and creative and adventurous and smart and assertive and just fucking old enough to know better than to make me listen to you talk about your extended birthright trip in some lackluster bar that has the lights turned up to asshole. let me be clear. if you cannot suggest a good first date spot, asking me to suggest one for you will just delay the inevitable.

SERIOUSLY.

google someone who doesn’t care.
your money’s no good here.